Guys should take off the pants and put on some tights...

Did she say tights??

Yes, she did. Of course she is only speaking figuratively, men are not allowed to wear tights unless they:

a. are Mikhail Baryshnikov.

or

b. can fly, shoot lasers from their eyes, or lift a monster truck over their head.

I  was only speaking figuratively. So what's my point? Women want real men, yes. We want strong, powerful, masculine men, brave and courageous, stoic and hard.

We do not, however, want to be told what to do and how to do it and when to stop. We do not want a man ordering us to "get me a beer, wench!". We do not desire a burping, gas passing neanderthal who tells us what we should think and feel. This is not our idea of a real man. Remember my "I love nerds" post? Intelligence and quiet, sweet demeanor are sexy.

What we do want is a hero. Someone protective and brave. Even if he isn't very big and isn't even particularly strong, we just want him to be protective OF us and shelter us from those who would bring us pain or embarrassment. A real man makes us feel secure and safe. He listens to our woes and actually feels for us when we hurt. If someone makes us angry, he wants to harm them (of course, he does not, but indicating that he wants to makes us feel better).

Now before you take me completely wrong, I am absolutely not indicating that you have to have super powers or be all muscle-bound and fearless. I'm saying that women do not consider chauvinism and rude, gross, and noisy disrespect manly traits. It's just rude, gross, and disrespectful. The opposite of manly in our opinion.

A man is someone who can stand by us, unflinching. Someone who picks us up when we fall, even if he knew we were going to fall and we didn't listen to him. Someone who has no problem letting his boisterous pals know that we are important and perfect in his eyes and let them call him "whipped" or whatever if they feel the need.

No, we do not want a pussy. We do not want to be able to walk all over him. We do want him to be a man, and we want him to be OUR man, strong and true.

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