Do you know what's fun? Being beautiful is fun!

Yes. It is. I love being beautiful. It takes work, effort. Of course. You don't just wake up in the morning gorgeous, you have to work at it. If I chose not to put the effort in, trust me when I say that I could easily be hideous! I mean, for a woman, there is much to do. We have to exercise, shave our entire body, do our hair, our nails, our toes (and I do all this myself, nail salons give me migraine headaches. It's either the fumes or the little Asian girls chattering incessantly in another language as though I'm not there... or both), makeup. On top of all that we (most of us) have to deal with the whole period thing once a month. How much more work is it to try to be beautiful during THAT ridiculousness? Sometimes it just isn't even possible.

So yes. It is a lot of work being beautiful, but the payoff is well worth it. You feel better. Empowered. In control. When you feel beautiful, you truly feel like you can accomplish anything. Well, anything in whatever time you have left over after getting yourself beautiful. If we were instantly beautiful, just woke up that way, and didn't have to put all that time and work into it... women would have long since taken over the world by now. We are on our way there, we just haven't quite had enough time due to the amount we spend getting and staying beautiful.

It's always nice to find short cuts and little tips along the way. There are a few little beauty secret short cuts that literally save my BUTT sometimes. Like using eye shadow to touch up roots when you haven't had time to color and something important springs up. That is one of my favorites. I saw somewhere online where some lady had marketed a powder to touch up your roots in a pinch. She was asking a pretty penny for it, too. Always the one to scrutinize before spending a dime, I did just that. Upon further inspection (and following up by testing my theory) this lady was basically selling EYE SHADOW for what must have been making her a fortune. It probably still is. Seriously, I need to come up with something like that!

The good thing was, I didn't pay a dime and I was able to glean an extremely useful beauty tip from my investigating and my theory. I may never have thought of that.

THAT is what's key. The realization that not everything has to cost a lot of money when it comes to beauty and beauty products. We probably have better ingredients in our cupboards at home that the most expensive products, for many things anyways. Fruits and dairy, weird medicines, like Prep H, Milk of Magnesia (Mylanta), and aspirin. Olive oil. Honey. The list goes on. 

So, yes, it's always wonderful when you learn how to save a bit of time and keep your money in your bank while still staying beautiful! It comes from within. I always say that beauty is NOT in the eye of the beholder. It's in the heart of the beautiful. Any beautiful woman could just as easily be ugly (way more easily, actually), just as any ugly woman could (well, not easily, like I said, it's hard work) be beautiful if she put forth the effort. 

Bitches! Don't hate us because we are beautiful! We have a planet to take over! Before these brutish men destroy it completely.

Ladies, if you haven't yet, please do take a peek at my book. Amazon gives you a free preview, so you can see the table of contents and it really is a highly useful resource that I put a lot of time and work into creating. It will save you much time and money with the amount of info it contains, from A to Z. Easy to navigate. Click the image below and have a look:

Calling ALL FEMALE READERS, please come contribute..

Okay Ladies, I need your help with this one. You'll notice at the top of my blog, a link that says "All girls post...". I am inviting all female readers to click that link and post their favorite, sexy thing a guy does, has done, or is doing, whether it be to you, for you, near you, to someone else, in a movie, anything. Your favorite experience in which a guy did something sexy, or your favorite move a guy makes, or look he gives. Anything, let us know. This is kind of for the men out there who want to know what turns us on. Girls, this is your chance to spill it! Boys, this is your chance to get the scoop from the mouth of the babes ;)

Click the tab in the link bar above to contribute a story.

My Top Favorite Home Made Beauty Treatments

Hello Ladies!
I am in the mood to share some of my favorite, very inexpensive, very effective, beauty treatments I've done right at home using stuff from my kitchen.

I just used this one yesterday:
1 egg
1 tablespoon half and half (you can use cream, milk, half and half, etc)
Separate the white from the yolk of the egg in a small bowl. Wisp the egg white with the cream together in a small bowl until it's frothy:

Slather the mixture all over your face and neck. It will be drippy, but you can allow it to semi-dry and then add more layers. Try to get it as thick as possible. 

At this point you can go ahead and jump in the shower, or just relax, but it takes about 10 to 15 minutes for it to completely dry. You will feel it tightening your skin. Rinse off and voila! Instant face lift of the like you will pay arms and legs for at a makeup counter. It works! The cream adds a bit of moisturization, but can be left out if you prefer.

Another very quick treatment I love to do is using just plain honey, right from the jar:

Just slather the sticky honey over your face and neck before you jump in the shower. Allow it to dry, approximately 10 to 15 minutes, then rinse in cool water. This treatment helps to exfoliate and moisturize your skin. Try mixing it with a tablespoon of milk or cream for extra moisture.

My son loves mangoes. So I buy them often:

Whenever I peel and cut him up a mango, I rub the insides of the skin all over my face and neck for a refreshing, cool astringent-like treatment that softens my skin and makes it glow.

For a complete A to Z of beauty and anti-aging treatments and recipes, ingredients, tips, and tricks, try my new book:

Turning 40, Aging or Refusal to Do So, and What Life Looks Like Now

I always turn 29 on my birthday, which was on Sept. 5. I've turned 29 eleven times now, which makes my existence on Earth total 40 years. I refuse to LOOK 40, or even associate myself with the "age" of 40. It's completely ridiculous, the whole "aging" idea. I don't believe in it. I exercise regularly. I probably don't get enough sleep, or drink enough water, but I stay out of the sun and moisturize. It really isn't a matter of what I do, rather, what I refuse to do, and that is to get old and wrinkly. Why should I? Why on Earth would I want to do such a thing?

I wonder if it's a matter of just giving up. If people think, "well, I'm in my 40s now, I guess I'm old and going to be unattractive anyways, so I'll just quit trying". I will never stop putting effort into my looks and into keeping my body nice and fit. It's always been something I cherish and enjoy, being pretty. Not just on the outside, but in my heart, too. I am a good person inside and I'm intelligent. I understand that it doesn't matter to some people. I understand THAT it doesn't, but not WHY.

So, uneventful as it was, the day came and went. I didn't suddenly look haggard and tired. I showered and put makeup on today as I usually do, looking in the mirror for any changes or signs. Everything was normal. The same as it was eleven years ago. Maybe I'm lucky, or maybe I just refuse to allow it, who knows?

I do know that 29 is a wonderful age to be stuck at, though.

Please do check out my book on the subject, if you like:

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The Beauty and Anti-Aging Encyclopedia...

Well, girls (and guys), I have finally finished editing and re-editing and re-editing again til my eyes almost fell out of my head, and my masterpiece is now published. A project quite a long time in the making, like my whole life, actually.
It is called The Beauty and Anti-Aging Encyclopedia. It is an A to Z list of beauty ingredients, beauty tips, anti-aging secrets, and recipes for beauty treatments at home from Almond Oil to Zinc. It's always going to be a growing and changing list, of course, as new studies find different things, but as of right now, it's current.
I'm hoping to coax you all to grab a copy and let me know what you think. I'd like to add more to it, if I missed anything, so if anyone reads it and has something to add, please let me know, and I'll test your idea and add it to the book, if it works.
You can check it out at the link below, there should be a sample you can see for free, but otherwise the book is 7.99 US for now.

If you get it and you'd like to comment on it here, that would be wonderful. If you leave me a review on Amazon, that would be awesome, too! Very open to suggestions and critique, too. The Playmate Gate California Cosmo

Many guys still believe that they don't need to learn to cook because it's a woman's thing. That is a closed-minded way of thinking and it really limits you. Seriously guys, if you know how to cook just one or two meals, and cook them well, you have no idea the power to impress that you hold in your hands. Gourmet doesn't have to involve all kinds of cooking techniques you can't even spell or pronounce. It's quite easy to make a very simple, yet elegant and tasty meal that will impress the panties off of any woman.

When I really trust a guy, one of my favorite date ideas is to go to his house and watch him cook while we sip wine. It's so much nicer than going out, because you are alone, in an intimate setting. You can light some candles, drink wine, and get to know each other. If a man can cook, he doubles in value, to be honest, because I LOVE good food that I don't have to cook myself every so often.

Just a few things you should be sure to have on hand:

A big pot with lid.

A small pot with lid.

A large skillet with lid.

A good spatula, wooden spoons, pasta utensil, ladle, and BBQ utensils.

A cheese grater.

A colander (to drain noodles).

A chopping board.

A mixing bowl.

And some food stuff to always have handy:

J. Lee Roy's Cookin Seasonings.

Garlic Salt.

Pasta.

Frozen veggies (broccoli, green beans, corn, etc).

Parmesan Cheese.

Eggs.

Pepper Jack Cheese.

Sour Cream.

You get the idea. I'll be releasing a cook book for guys who don't cook soon. It will have lots of very simple, tasty, gourmet-like meals meant to impress, with little skill, and even on a low budget. If you know what you're doing, cooking for your date can save money, too.

Boys, put on your aprons and break out a new skill. Cooking. It's not just for chicks. Good food can be the way to our hearts, too, you know!

By the way, my first book has been published, finally, if you are interested. It's called The Insider's Secrets to Dating Beautiful Women, available for 6.99 at the Amazon book market in Kindle format.

Guys should take off the pants and put on some tights...

Did she say tights??

Yes, she did. Of course she is only speaking figuratively, men are not allowed to wear tights unless they:

a. are Mikhail Baryshnikov.

or

b. can fly, shoot lasers from their eyes, or lift a monster truck over their head.

I  was only speaking figuratively. So what's my point? Women want real men, yes. We want strong, powerful, masculine men, brave and courageous, stoic and hard.

We do not, however, want to be told what to do and how to do it and when to stop. We do not want a man ordering us to "get me a beer, wench!". We do not desire a burping, gas passing neanderthal who tells us what we should think and feel. This is not our idea of a real man. Remember my "I love nerds" post? Intelligence and quiet, sweet demeanor are sexy.

What we do want is a hero. Someone protective and brave. Even if he isn't very big and isn't even particularly strong, we just want him to be protective OF us and shelter us from those who would bring us pain or embarrassment. A real man makes us feel secure and safe. He listens to our woes and actually feels for us when we hurt. If someone makes us angry, he wants to harm them (of course, he does not, but indicating that he wants to makes us feel better).

Now before you take me completely wrong, I am absolutely not indicating that you have to have super powers or be all muscle-bound and fearless. I'm saying that women do not consider chauvinism and rude, gross, and noisy disrespect manly traits. It's just rude, gross, and disrespectful. The opposite of manly in our opinion.

A man is someone who can stand by us, unflinching. Someone who picks us up when we fall, even if he knew we were going to fall and we didn't listen to him. Someone who has no problem letting his boisterous pals know that we are important and perfect in his eyes and let them call him "whipped" or whatever if they feel the need.

No, we do not want a pussy. We do not want to be able to walk all over him. We do want him to be a man, and we want him to be OUR man, strong and true.

You can pick up my newly published book on Amazon for Kindle. It's titled The Insider's Secrets to Dating Beautiful Women.

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Do women REALLY want men to "just be yourself"?

We forever are hearing someone say we should be ourselves. Just be you... but should we, really?

This is a controversial subject, I know. Well, my biggest focus with The Playmate Gate is to give guys a good idea of what women really want from them. To allow them in on the inside secrets that women usually don't disclose, easily if at all. My content is, above all, honest and without sugar-coating or a chaser. If anyone reading this takes it the wrong way, or get's mad and offended, I can't apologize. My information is aimed at the portion of my readers who want the truth, because, face it, knowledge is power. If you know what women truly want, you are more likely going to be able to provide it.

I can't honestly speak for all beautiful women, but being one myself, and being raised with two beautiful sisters, then going on to working in clubs and modeling, etc, I've been around beautiful women all of my life. I have a pretty decent idea of what the majority of them are after.

That being said, if you have taken in the advice somewhere that women want you to "be yourself", well, that should be examined. We absolutely do not want you to lie, pretend to be something you are not, deceive us, give us false hopes, or anything along those lines. So, in that aspect, "be yourself" does ring true. Let's put that a bit differently, though. Don't be someone else. Don't pretend.

So, having that part cleared up, let's move on to actually "being yourself".

Honestly? No. Women do not want you to be yourself. Now, keep reading, even if I just pissed you off. Give me a chance to completely ruin your day, not just 5 minutes of it. I kid! Don't close the page.

What women truly want is for you to be clean, polite, smell wonderful, witty and funny, intelligent, suave, brave, strong, sensitive, chivalrous, sexy, heroic, and be able to whip up a delicious meal on the fly. Think. In all honesty, how many of these things describe the real you? When you are home, alone, in your room, no one there, are you any of these things? Maybe one or two. Probably none. I would wager that about 75% of the guys who read this, while in the privacy of their own home, are smelly, gassy, burping, snorting, cartoon viewing, gross joke cracking, beer drinking, women ogling, scared of the dark, t.v. dinner chowing, rude beasts. You may not even realize it. Maybe you think that if a women wants to be with you, she must suffer your bodily noises and be understanding if you ogle other women, when she catches you, which she usually will, because most of you are really not as sly as you believe you are.

What women truly do NOT want:

To smell or hear your bodily functions.

You to crack rude, gross jokes to us and then act as though we are inferior for not finding them funny.

To have you treat us with disrespect in front of your buddies.

To allow your buddies to disrespect us, behind our backs, or right in front of us.

To detect any fear in you.

You to ogle women who are not us, ever, not even in private, and we'd like you to reassure us of this.

To be condescended to or made to feel inferior in any way.

You to gloat if we argue and somehow you win. We'd prefer never to hear of it again. Ever.

You to guzzle a beer, make that annoying AAAAAHHHHHHHH sound, and then belch as long and loud as possible.

To sum up, no, women absolutely do not want you to "be yourself" if that involves anything on the above list and more. But let me please remind you of something, before indignation causes any exploding heads.. we girls work very hard to be beautiful, sexy, smart, good in bed, good in the kitchen, nice to your buddies, welcoming to your family, etc. Reverse the situation and tell me, honestly, do you really believe that any of what we present to you is our true, unaltered self? It works both ways. When you adore someone, you do your best to be the YOU that turns them on and makes them happy. Personally, I love being the hottie that turns my man on every night. When I'm at home, alone, I'm without make-up, wearing sweats and tank tops, glasses, and clicking away on my lap top with my hair a mess. I would never want to "be myself" all of the time, how boring would that be?! And as far as anyone knows? My body does nothing gross and makes no gross sounds or smells. Period.

So, don't try to be something you truly are not and don't be deceitful or dishonest. Just DO keep some aspects of you to yourself when you are around women. It's okay. You aren't hurting or depriving yourself in any way, I don't care what the professionals tell you ;)

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Chubby guys with attitude.. bigger versions of hot?

I have secret crushes on several chubbier guys and I'm not going to let "political correctness" keep me from broadcasting it! I think any man can be sexy if he knows how to carry what he has...

Chubby guys I'd get down with:

Jack Black:

 

Kevin James from The Queen of Kings:

Jack Nicholson:

Adam from Man Vs. Food:

Chris Farley (rest in peace, sweet boy):

Guy Fieri:

This is just a list of examples. When you are meant to be chubby, you know it and you know how to display it. You gotta rock it. Why not embrace it? The guys I listed here do and THAT is why they are HOT! Some of the sexiest men on Earth are chubby. Don't believe me? Refer to above images ;)

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Women Love Hot Rods and Muscle Cars!

I'm NOT a tomboy. I'm not in any way masculine, in fact, I'm rather a priss about some things. HOWEVER, I LOVE vehicles. I love the Transformers.  I like Harleys and fast boats. I am fascinated with Peterbilt Semi Trucks:

So tough!

My dream car is the Dodge Viper:

Purrrrr..

I collect die cast cars, like...

Hot Wheels: 

I do not own this one.

Johnny Lightning:

I DO own this car.

M2Machines:

I DO own this one.

and whatever others I find that make me happy.

I have a 1:64 die cast of Dale Earnhardt Senior's first race car, a pink '56 Ford Victoria:

Probably my most valuable car.

The car I will own very soon is a Chevy Camaro:

My baby!

And when I retire, I'll also own a Chevy Corvette Stingray:

Watch out boys.

Anyways, the point of this post is this: girls are turned on by cool cars. Girls will ALWAYS be turned on by cool cars. If you do not currently own a cool car, please do not despair. It isn't a requirement for most of us. Not even me. However, if you are dating someone and she claims that she prefers you drive a little, economical, Japanese-made, run-forever car, she is being smart. And practical. And a liar. Her motor will rev with the sound of every engine she hears from a big 'ol Chevy or Ford or Dodge, PIECE-O-CRAP, DOWN HOME AMERICAN-MADE, MUSCLE MACHINE.

That said, it really is okay to be practical, fuel efficient, eco-friendly and we do appreciate when you are these things, but PLEASE do excuse us when we moisten our panties at the sight of a Hot Rod. It cannot be helped.

Facial Hair Review..

Yuck.

When the lead singer of my favorite band, Our Lady Peace

decided to grow a beard (cultivating it and keeping it only for a brief time, during which was my first and, so far, only opportunity to see them live), I began giving the male facial hair question some thought. While I love Raine Maida

(OLP's lead singer), I am relieved he shaved the carpet from his strikingly amazing face:

No beard, adorable.

I am not completely against facial hair on a man. It depends on the man and how he keeps it. I think my biggest issue is that I have extremely sensitive skin and when a guy forgets or neglects to shave, kissing me is pretty much out of the question. It turns my face into something that resembles a sunburned porcupine victim.

There are some absolute musts in the facial hair department, such as:

Wolverine

Captain Jack Sparrow

Odin, Thor's father

Z.Z. Top

For the most part, I believe a man should keep it neat and trimmed. Both upstairs and down, by the way. My favorite style of facial hair... the soul patch:

It matches my landing strip!

All in all, facial hair is fine in my book, so long as it accents a gorgeous face without hiding it. Being lazy and not shaving doesn't count. I think if I were lazy and didn't shave, my man would have a far more negative reaction to it than I do when he doesn't shave ;)

I Love Nerds.

The most attractive quality in a man is a high I.Q. I love extremely intelligent guys. Nothing turns me off faster than someone who isn’t at least equal to me in intelligence. I love the shy, quiet, smart type. The ones who can do math and know everything about a computer. Smart is sexy. A guy should never “ghetto up” his lingo, or speak with inadequate grammar and vocabulary. And there is nothing worse than that macho asshole who is one person when alone with a girl, but someone totally different when he’s around his friends. NEVER EVER dis-respect a girl unless she totally deserves it. It’s a turn off and makes a guy appear insecure and not genuine. It also places him right into the average, boring crowd of cattle and sheep mooooving right along to society’s rhythm. LAME.

So cute.

Actually, I AM a female nerd, myself. Yes. A nerd in a model's body. I'm smart. Technology savvy. I like to read and I'm a straight A student in college. I like Star Wars, the Transformers, and the movie Office Space is one of my favorite comedies of all time. I wear glasses to drive and my laptop goes with me wherever I roam. ALL HAIL THE NERD!